Gentlemen! Just some hints and tidbits to give you a bit of a helping hand (as it were)...

My darlings, just because a woman flirts with you does not mean she wants to sleep with you.

Just because a woman flirts with you does not mean she is physically attracted to you.

Just because a woman flirts with you does not mean that she is willing to cheat on her spouse/boyfriend/partner.

Just because a woman flirts with you does not mean she is open to, or open to being talked into even the most superficial of sexual scenarios up to and including holding hands, lingering hugs, goodnight kisses, being sniffed, being groped, being felt up, nuzzling, dry humping, making out, or the like.

Flirting is fun. Intellectual compatibility is great, but only one of an infinite number of variables that would gain one entrance to the promised land. Flirting is an adventure, and it gives the message, "I think you're neato" - but is not code for "let's fuck!" No. It's not. I'm not lying. It really isn't.

If you want to know if you have a shot, just ask. Ask. Even though it goes against your training. Because you have been trained wrong. A hesitation is a no. A maybe is a no. A no is a no. An "aren't you sweet" head tilt is a no. A look away is a no. A sheepish grin is a no. A subject change is a no. A "why are you asking" look or gesture is a no.

Women DO know in the first two minutes if you have a shot with them. Usually less. It has to do with a myriad of different hard-wired cues including how you look, how you smell, how the chemistry is, how the eye contact is, if you have any characteristics that are a turn off (and most of these are instinctual and not in her control to override), or a million other possible things. It's not personal, it's just business. And the business of women is to screen out the unsatisfactory potential mates. Whatever the reason.

Sex drive is Mother Nature's way of ensuring the continuation of the species - BUT GOOD JUDGEMENT and picking up the cues are YOUR WAYS of living in a more reasonable reality instead of the pursuit of the un-gettable. And it's subsequent resentment and crankiness.

I hate to give too much credibility to this, but the advice in "Hitch" was quite good. The key fiddling, the 90% lean in, the paying attention. When a woman is actually into you sexually, the green light is unmistakable.

Women also have the pesky habit of changing their minds or putting on the brakes during the stages of the transaction. There are many reasons for this including - they re-think their willingness to be naked with you, you said something to blow the deal, you ate something that gave you a bad odor, you have a previously undiscovered physical characteristic that turns them off, you reminded them of a bad relationship, etc, etc.

If they change their minds, but you don't and decide that they don't have the right to put on the brakes, that's called rape, it's called assault, it makes you a sexual predator. I mention this because some guys have the nutty idea that once the launch sequence is started, it's the responsibility of everyone involved to see it to its conclusion. This is faulty reasoning and maybe a clue as to why the brakes were put on in the first place. You may be a creep. Just sayin.

I also will make mention of "There's Something About Mary". Yes. Please. Empty the gun. It's great advice. There are extreme differentials in the sexual imperative. A little pragmatism goes a long way.

Finally, the mating game is a dangerous and dicey place for everyone. Be safe and smart. There is a lid for every pot. I promise.